Why Don't We Hear From Deceased Loved Ones?

‘Does the length of time as a discarnate make a difference as to whether a discarnate will communicate through a medium?’

There is no hard fast scientific rule available thus far and the situation appears to vary, depending on the individual entity. My personal belief is that there may be a variety of reasons, all depending upon free will choice. Let’s explore:

Time: Time is a construct of this earthly plane. Our thought process is conditioned to proceed in a linear fashion, with yesterday, today then tomorrow, all logged in hours, minutes and seconds. (In fact, my daughter thinks of the linear expression of time as necessary to the process of learning.) As a discarnate, there is wondrous freedom from such physical constraint. No longer are our loved ones governed by earth plane physical constraints or rules. For better relational understanding, consider the manner through which experiences play out in a dream. Time is not an element – days, weeks and seconds are one and the same, with scientific research telling us that REM sleep/dreaming occur in a matter of approximate minutes, from 10 – 100 progressively.

Ability vs Affinity: Think of natural human abilities and affinities which we are able to relate to here, as a correspondence for that which we are attempting to understand in the realm of the discarnate.

Ability: We all have personal strengths and weaknesses. Here on the earth plane, some are naturally more mechanically inclined, while others are more musically inclined. Therefore, there will be a differentiation in communication/navigational ability overall. For instance, some of us easily understand algebra, while others of us struggle with it. Some of us more easily operate cell phones and computer programs, or work under the hood of a car. Keep in mind, some of us will NEVER understand what’s under the hood of the car, while others will slowly attain that information at some point :o) Therefore, by comparison, some will learn how to better utilize the ‘whistles’ and ‘bells’ offered through a Medium’s consciousness, while others will not.

Affinity: Some with whom you share a love bond, are great about calling, writing, and remembering birthdays. Others love you just as much however their natural inclination is to never pick up the phone. Yet when you see them, that heart connection is clearly beating. (I have a very close friend who lives only a few streets from me. Through the years, there have been periods where we’ve talked daily. On other occasions, we’ve gone up to 2 years without speaking. Either way, when we get together, and it’s as if not a minute had passed.)

Grief: Those who care for us prefer to not increase our pain, unless there is no other solution available towards a greater purpose. If they believe communication will acerbate the process of bereavement, they may refrain from communicating. While difficult for us to understand in our vacuum of sorrow, this too is an act of love.

Acceptance: One theory posed, is that some discarnate energies have difficulty accepting the adjustment or transformation. At the time of passing, these individuals may have been unprepared spiritually, had regrets, or had much unfinished earth plane business. Just as we have vacations, or places to go to step back from this world and recharge, there too, exist a phase of rest, healing, rejuvenation and education, with caring loved ones, guides and helpers.

After the loss of a loved one, we may desperately wish for an afterlife encounter, whether it be direct or indirect. And though we visit a medium, we still may not hear from our loved ones for a multitude of reasons. Please know the love bond was, and still is, very real. So, in your quest to understand, strengthen your awareness, and thinning the veil between our worlds, please remember that love IS the constant and endless pulse to the universal heartbeat. Those whom we’ve known and lot feel that bond just as deeply and carry it forward as a precious gift, now and always.

‘To know the gift love is to see the face of God.’



Wishing you many blessings along your path,
Janice